April 21, 2006

Day 59: Telling Hao’s parents

Filed under: News, Nina's blog — Rebecca MacKinnon @ 7:26 am

On April 21st Hao’s sister Nina writes, “Our Parents Know…

Back in Shanghai, I really wish I could clone myself. One minute I am discussing investment with my colleagues, the next minute I am answering calls from caring friends. In the evening, I end a meeting with my department, and then attend another one with people in the industry to discuss the industry’s direction. When I finally step through the door to my home, my eldest Aunt calls; she had met with my parents that afternoon and tried to describe my little brother’s situation in the most positive way possible. She said my mother walked her to the door and seemed calm enough. I hid my agony; the more composed they seem, the more overwhelmed they actually are. Sure enough, they called me a few minutes later, speaking with heavy nasal sounds. I know they have been hiding their grief, only showing their true emotions in front of their daughter whom they can trust. It’s odd how I am usually gripped by despair whenever someone mentions little brother, yet this time I was surprisingly calm on the phone. I gathered all those consoling words that other people tell me and fed them to my parents, and I tried to make light of little brother’s situation. In fact, as I try to convince my parents to believe what I say, I am also trying to convince myself to believe that little brother will be okay. My parents and I believe in my brother’s judgment, but they have experienced the difficult times of the past, so they can’t help but see the present situation with pessimism.

When I think of my parents’ burden, I straighten my spine, as I now have two other people’s hope on my shoulders.

Friends tell me Bloomberg News of April 19 and the Washington Post of April 20 both mention Haozi’s case. Friends have joked that Haozi has become a “celebrity”. I can only laugh bitterly; who wants to become this kind of “celebrity”?

Here is the link to the Washington Post article: Shattering the China Dream.


  1. The principle preacher(s) of early Christianity were persecuted by nonbelievers. This history sows the hostility and distrust of Christians today towards the “heretics”, like the Chinese. To re-demonstrate (beat a dead horse) such feelings of the western Christians, the CIAs staged the show of Chinese protesting. I bet the Chinese laugh their teech off at the US. The problem is such shows only discredit the west and revealing its blindness. The “Asian” protests do not appear to speak Chinese at all. Also, clearly FLG is treated a lot better than Branch Dravidians in the US. The problem is that most Americans are ignorant about the rest of the world, including China. They grow up in media biases and church lies. The Christian church indoctrinated them that “China persecutes Christians.” when they were children. People like GWP, Dick Cheney and Condi Rice, they receive their views about China as part of their faith. I don’t see bow to church is freedom. I don’t see why people must be forced to believe in Ghod. I don’t see why being religiously brainwashed is a freedom. We need true human freedom including the freedom from religious childhood indoctrinations. We should not have a biased governmental policy promoting only those people and organizations believing in Ghod. It is not a problem of China; just like it is not a problem of evolution. Looking at the “unimaginable and unpredicted” mess in Iraq, has the US learned anything?

    Comment by jessica copeland — April 22, 2006 @ 1:25 pm

  2. Thanks for sharing such deeply personal thoughts, Nina. There’s nothing quite as painful as parents watching helplessly as their child suffers, and all our hearts are with you. (Even, I want to believe, Jessica’s.)

    Comment by richard — April 23, 2006 @ 2:13 am

  3. I really hope you get him back. I have friends in China and have been talking about this with them some. I really don’t want them to be arrested either!!

    The amount of censorship that the Chinese government has achieved is really mind boggling. They censor all electronic communications or companies censor themselves and they’ve even made the Chinese people censor themselves. The ones I know don’t want to know anything or say anything about politics. They williningly block it out completely. They don’t even recognize the Tank Man photo! For the younger people, that is the way it has always been, they just accept it. If I ever went to China, I could never be a ‘tourist’ in Tianenmen Square. I would be afraid of what I’d do there, (take photos of all the security cameras or guards, distribute Tank Man photo… I don’t know) and it would get me arrested so I don’t think I could even go!

    I know it will change one day, it is inevitable. Now good luck getting him back!!

    Comment by Michael — April 23, 2006 @ 3:34 am

  4. I heard about Kamm’s foundation, Dui Hua at NPR.

    Perhaps we should contact them?

    Comment by YW — April 23, 2006 @ 4:14 am

  5. It’s a dictatorship way of life (and death).

    Comment by e.r. — April 23, 2006 @ 8:22 am

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